Flirting online, Talking on the phone in our house...MY HUSBAND!!?

My husband has been flirting online with women and getting numbers and talking to them in our home while I'm either out or asleep. He's been caught before but promised me he would stop and he does but it's only for a few months and we go over this again. He says this shouldn't be a problem because he wouldn't get mad if I talked to other men or even had dinner with them! To me that's cheating...he say's he's just a "people person" and a free spirit. I'm so tired of going through this, I've told him before to please stop because it's wrong to focus so much attention online but not even talk to his wife! We have NO love life, no anything. I'm trying to save my marriage but I don't think I can because I can't trust him, everytime I try he does it again.....should I just let him go? He says he likes the attention and the adventure of meeting new women online....I try to do things with him but he's just not interested. He stays online until 4am sometimes..this is really getting to me

Flirting online, Talking on the phone in our house...MY HUSBAND!!?
Your man is stupid. You should let him go, because he isn't ready to be a married man, nor may he ever be. I would warn everyone about him, tell everyone what a cheating dog he is.
Reply:....its cheating but don't leave him for the sake of ur children talk to him again and tell him that are getting divorce if he doesn't stop talking to these girls and try to make some romantic dinner and wear sexy clothes when the kids are sleeping over at their friends houses and when he talks to them u should start touching him or wear sexy clothes to get his attention and maybe he would notice that theres no need to go and to talk to other girls to have fun
Reply:you're right, it is cheating. it's called an emotional affair. my hubby did the same thing to me. he claimed that he was just "talking to her about her problems". problems my a-s-s. well, talking to her about her "problems" cause problems for him cause he got served with divorce papers about a month ago. you know, you have given him chance after chance and he obviously is not going to change because he doesn't see anything wrong with it. bottom line is that he has no respect for you not to do the things that he knows are hurting your marriage. it's time that you move on with YOUR life.
Reply:He is doing it because you let him. He is taking you for granted.


Think about the conversations you have with your husband. What are they about? The kids? What needs fixing in the house? Car repairs? Money? Do you talk to him, or at him? Do you talk to him about his positive qualities? Do you make him feel special more times than not?


Now I am not trying to point the finger at you, but just pointing out things to consider. Unfortunately, at times I feel like I am just a provider and a repairman. Those things are not bad, but sometimes you want to know "You are the Man!" Maybe that is the feeling he is getting from the women online.


I think he is taking it to far by openly flirting and calling from your home phone. Those things are not healthy for your relationship. You may want to convince him to go to counseling with you.
Reply:He is a "people person"? Then how come its just WOMEN he is contacting? What about the other 50% of the population?!





He is an azzclown.
Reply:wow well play the game see if he dont' care do exactly what he does and make sure he knows it and see how he feels maybe it'll change the way he does things.. i talk to you if you want to see how he acts... who knows it might save your marriage afterall
Reply:Now wait a minute. Maybe he is a people person. It sounds like just harmless (choke) fun to me. ( gulp )
Reply:Let it and him go. move on.
Reply:"People Person" then why does your husband not be friends with men on line, why only women. Your husband is so full of sh1t. The only reason he thinks you talking to other men or having dinner with them is ok, because it will make him feel less guilty for doing what he is doing. If a man will spend more time getting excited by a woman online and ignore the warm blooded, in flesh wife in the house is an Idiot and needs to be slapped hard on the back of his head. It might knock some sense into him. Your husband is hopeless and does not respect you. Leave him so that he can have his online excitement (loser!). And the find a man who loves and respects you.





The only way to save your marriage is that you need to make a loud statement that gets through his thick head by throwing the computer out of the door let the neighbors watch, that should embarrass him some.
Reply:I am going through the same thing but stay with him because of our child. If you can, you can try counseling and then leave him if that doesn't work..
Reply:If you stay with him you'll have more of the same. If you have no love life, then it would appear that he has already ended the marriage. Why would you want to stay with him? He's not going to change, he's proven that already.





Either suck it up and look the other way or boot his butt to the curb.
Reply:I stopped reading your post at “he’s been caught before but promised to stop”





Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Reply:Sounds like he's pretty stuck on himself to say the least. You can't trust him to keep a promise, that's already been proven. If he's such a people person why is it just women he's contacting? If he wants adventure tell him to cut the pockets out of his pants! I'd get rid of that D@#$%%26amp; computer and not allow another one in my home. Tell Mr. Free Spirit to grow up %26amp; act like a married man, instead of a 2 year old who has to have constant attention or he WIILL be a free spirit without a home!!!
Reply:He is a Cad.
Reply:It doesn't matter where he is meeting women. If it were a club, a bar, the park or the internet. This is inappropriate behavior and he is cheating. He is playing you. You have not lost your mind





This is what you do: Get rid of the PC. You have to end this.
Reply:he's cheating... You know cheating is not just about sleeping with someone. he is giving these other women his time, his attention, and his affection.





Since you're married, try again to make it clear to him that you are serious and that what is at stake here is your marriage and future. If he doesn't respond or stick to it, suggest counselling. If he refuses to go... get a lawyer and start planning your divorce and life after divorce..
Reply:I don't blame you. I would leave if I were you. It's very degrading to you for him to do that. Especially if you contrast his treatment of you with a husband who cherishes his wife, and provides his undivided attention to her and her happiness... there are men like that out there... I know, cause I'm one of them. You deserve better than that. Before leaving though, maybe you can telling him how much it hurts, and that if it continues you will leave. Try communicating this through a marraige counselor, by bring an objective third party into it, you might be able to make him more accountable for his actions... escpecially if he has to explain himself infront of you and the counselor. It might help, and it's always worth trying to save a marraige before just walking away. Good luck, and make sure you realize that this probably has more to do with him ans some character flaw of his rather than you being an undesirable woman, you deserve better.
Reply:im sorry to say, but i think mayb u shud get a divorce. seems to me hes not committed to da marriage n live life likes a single man.

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