Online RSVP without "added guests"?

My boyfriend and I are considering an online RSVP for the wedding. Our idea for response cards is that we would make up personalized response cards for each invitation with the names of the individuals on that invitation on the card and then boxes to check. We figure this will eliminate people adding guests -- or at least significantly reduce it.





We want a wedding website and so it makes sense to also have an option for RSVPing online. But unless we give each guest a code to login, we wouldn't be able to have personalized RSVP's. (Has anyone ever seen anything like that online? Without looking at the whole guest list?) So it looks like we'd have to just have the standard "write in your name and say whether you're attending or not" RSVP for the online system.





If that's the case, should we worry about people adding names? Or will people be able to figure out that it's not okay by the style of our personalized response cards?

Online RSVP without "added guests"?
Skip the website- it's just going to be one more thing that takes up your time, and you'll actually be duplicating your efforts. It's much easier to track one method of RSVP than two.





As to people adding guests to their response- unless you have a reason to believe that your guests will do this, I wouldn't worry about it. While I have heard of this, it's usually just one rude person who tries to pull a stunt like this, not the whole guest list.





Good luck.
Reply:I have never heard of people bringing guests whose names are not on the invitation. That is one of the rudest practices I ever heard of. You send out invitations and clearly indicate who the invitation is for, and then there is a response card and they can indicate if they are coming. I cannot imagine someone crashing a wedding.
Reply:Don't forget about the older relatives who have no idea what a computer is. You might want to do both. I noticed that my web site that I made on www.theknot.com had that option but I turned it off. I think you should just stick with the original way of doing things.
Reply:Hi and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!





Personally, I like the old-fashioned way of doing it....mailing it!





I know this is 2008....but there are some guests (older?) that do not have a computer. I, myself, am all about the computer, but it would be a pain to me to have to go into someone's wedding site to have to reserve for THEIR wedding.





It's so much easier and more practical, to simply write my name on the RSVP card and check yes or no that I will be attending and put it in the mail!





Also, you may be setting yourself up for lots more work. There was a girl on here maybe 2 weeks ago that had her RSVP's through email or phone and she did not get many that responded. Now she is forced to call everyone!





Just do it the old-fashioned way (mail) and it will save you lots of grief (setting up a code for everyone.)
Reply:if you don't mind everyone seeing the other guests names you can set up on online form where they have to choose their name off a dropdown menu and then tick a box for their rsvp. you can create this easily in Microsoft Excel and then save is as a html format. then just post it on your website and set it to email back to you
Reply:I'm not sure if they have a hidden guest list option but try evite. I'm also not sure about limiting guest options for responses. You can just also send two different response cards. One w/ guest and one w/ just a yes/no response. Send only w/guest to those friends/guests to whom you need to extend a couples invitation. For the others just send the yes/no response card. You'd have to make up separate table cards but that's not that big of a deal. This way you don't have to worry about anything since no one will know who was invited or not. Also, I'm not sure how many older people will be attending this event but you have to also consider whether all of your guest will have not only online access but the competence to even comprehend what your asking of them. I only bring this up thinking of my parents and grandparents and that most people have family based invitations (including parents friends, etc). Good luck and and early congrats!